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As the first day of summer greets
us today, many thousands of families
across the country are planning, packing
or in the midst of a move. Whether
it's within the same county, the next
state over, or across the country,
moving can be a stressful time for
children.
Between 2002 and 2003, some 40 million
people -- 14 percent of the population
-- moved, according to the U.S. Census
Bureau.
Kidshealth.org,
the largest and most visited website
that provides doctor-approved health
information about children from before
birth through adolescence, says it's
common for kids to go through a range
of emotions upon the news they'll
be moving -- fear, excitement, anger,
sadness, stress.
If you're moving because you and
your spouse are going through a divorce,
or your spouse died, your children
will need you more than ever. Although
you'll undoubtedly be going through
your own range of emotions, the experts
say it's important to be there for
your kids to voice the myriad feelings
they're encountering.
Century 21, a real estate company,
says when it's time to break the news
you should start by telling your children
as soon as possible. Kids need time
to get used to the idea of moving,
so give them as much forewarning as
you can.
Next, be there to answer all their
questions.
"What they ask will give you
an idea of how they're feeling --
excited or uneasy," the website
says. "And some questions may
offer an ideal way to get them involved
in the move process immediately, such
as suggesting they get online to investigate
the new community."
Your children's attitude will mirror
yours, so be positive and optimistic
about the upcoming move.
Finally, make them a part of the
process -- planning, packing and perhaps
helping to choose the new home.
Once the announcement is made about
the pending move, experts suggest
you follow these tips, when applicable
with your children:
- Bring your child when you look
at houses so they understand and
come to accept that the family will
be moving. It will also make them
feel an important part of the process
and perhaps bring a sense of excitement
for them.
- If you're moving to another part
of the state or to a different state,
pull out a map and show your child
where you'll be moving. Explain
any differences in weather or any
nearby attractions that may interest
the child, such as moving closer
to the ocean, the mountains, even
close to an amusement park. Look
at websites with information about
your new community.
- Plan a visit to your child's new
school. Try to arrange for your
child to meet the teacher ahead
of time.
- Look into sports and other extra-curricular
activities that interest your child
so you know how and when to sign
up. For older children involved
in high school sports, look at area
newspapers to read up on the teams'
activities.
- Before you move, hold a going-away
party for your child. Encourage
your child to keep contact with
his or her old friends while encouraging
new friendships. Buy them an address
book to record old contacts.
- Help your child put together a
scrapbook, photo album or journal
of your old house and special memories
the family shared.
- When you move into your new home,
begin a new keepsake and encourage
your child to write about his or
her hopes and expectations at the
new home.
- Encourage your child to take part
in the moving process as much as
possible. Younger children can help
back some of their favorite items
to help them realize that although
the family will be in a new home,
their belongings will stay with
them.
- Once you've selected your new
house, show your child where his
or her room will be. Draw a sketch
of the room layout and let your
child take part in determining where
he or she will place the furniture.
- If your budget allows, perhaps
help your child choose a new décor
for the new bedroom. If nothing
else, new paint in a favorite color
is an inexpensive way to brighten
up the room and give your child
a sense of personalizing his or
her new room.
- For toddler-aged children, speak
with pediatricians regarding such
issues as the introduction of a
new diet or the start of toilet
training.
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